What to Bring to Hospice?

A friend asked me what to bring to hospice? It’s a fair question. I haven’t seen anything written about it. These are my observations. I hope you find them helpful.

Ten Tips

Rule #1:

Keep it simple. Decoration doesn’t matter much anymore. Comfort is king.

Rule #2:

Do not decorate the bed. Your loved one will undoubtedly be in a hospital bed. Nothing should get in the way of it going up and down or from having various pieces of equipment rolled in or used around it. You might ask if you can wrap the side-rails with foam and masking tape. My husband banged his arms on those rails, bruising himself. It must’ve hurt. Do whatever it takes to increase comfort.

Rule #3:

You might want to bring a familiar quilt or throw if they are washable, comfortable, and familiar to your loved one. Don’t bother with fancy sheets. They may need to be changed often and you may want to dispose them all later.

Rule #4:

Place a poster with family pictures on it or other large pictures so they are seen immediately upon waking up. Don’t forget to include pet pictures. These should bring some level of reassurance to start each day.

Rule #5:

Place a favorite, comfortable chair to one side of the bed. If your loved one can get up, they may use it. The chair may also serve you or other visitors, especially if you feel the need to sit for a long time. I advise a small table and lamp near the chair too.

Rule #6:

Make sure the bed is placed so the person in it can see outside. Sunlight, sky, clouds, birds and perhaps flowers will be comforting and healthy. Depending on the diagnosis or local rules, flowers inside the room may not be allowed. A window was a godsend during the Covid lockdown when children and others could at least wave to their loved one.

Rule #7:

All clutter should be banned. Clothing needs are minimal. If your loved one can still see to read and wants to, a newspaper, a couple of magazines or 1 to 2 books should suffice. There is no need for a bookcase.

Rule #8:

Try to make your loved one’s favorite music accessible. A mix tape would be wonderful.

Rule #9:

Put any other small but meaningful personal item such as a rosary, a religious medal, or locket within reach. A person with Alzheimer’s Disease might also find comfort with a “fidget toy” or “worry blanket” to keep their hands busy.

Rule #10:

Keep a wastebasket and tissues within reach.

Wrap-Up

These are hard times for most people, and yet, they are also precious. Hospice can be a tremendous support to both you and your loved one. Do not be afraid. I wish you well.